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If You Are Being Hazed

  • Stay connected with friends and family outside of the group. Groups that haze often try to isolate their new members from others who might challenge the new members to question what they are going through.

  • Talk with others about what you are going through. You do not have to keep it a secret. Demanding secrecy is a common practice designed to protect people who are abusing others. You have a right to tell anyone anything you want about what you are going through, even if you were made to promise that you would not do so.

  • Seek guidance from your parents/guardians or other family members.

  • Refuse to participate.

  • Join together with other new members to refuse to be hazed. There is power in numbers because groups depend on getting new members to join. For example, some fraternity members admit that they became very worried when it appeared that a group of new members might rebel because of the consequences to the group if the new members left. Hazers don't want new members to realize how much power they have, so they work hard to keep them subjugated.

  • Leave the group. This is hard to do, but is always an option. Walking away from hazing takes strength. Don't believe it if anyone tries to tell you that it is a sign of weakness or that you weren't tough enough to hack it. Quitting when you are being hazed takes character.

  • Seek other support services as needed, including: Appel Health Services (Counseling Center) and the administrative deans.

  • Report the hazing: fill out an anonymous online form or make a phone call, anonymously if you prefer.

Anonymous Hazing Report

Click here to report a hazing incident at F&M.

If there is an immediate threat to self or others, physical injury or a safety concern, call F&M Public Safety at  (717) 291-3939

If a Friend Is Being Hazed:

  • Tell the person that you are concerned

  • Ask your friend what he or she has had to do as part of joining the group.

  • If you suspect that your friend is being hazed but he or she won't say so, ask if there are things going on that he or she isn't supposed to talk about. If that is the case, it's very likely that the person is being hazed.

  • Let your friend know that it's okay to withdraw from an organization at any point.

  • Offer your support.

  • Let your friend know what resources are available.

  • Report the hazing: fill out an anonymous online form or make a phone call, anonymously if you prefer.

If Your Organization Hazes:

  • Raise your concern with other members that you trust.
  • If the group has relationships with alumni members, seek their constructive support.
  • Offer ideas for alternatives to hazing.
  • Give examples of groups that have developed strong, non-hazing new member programs.