Share your Reflections!

  • Female students in 1969; alumnae
F&M Alumnae: We want to hear your memories of F&M! Whether you experienced the beginning of co-education at the College firsthand or you're a part of the diverse, dynamic F&M of recent years, F&M wants to know what made your experience memorable. Share your reflections by filling out this form

Your Reflections 

"I was thrilled that F&M became co-ed the year I began college, as it was my dream to attend. I wondered whether they were ready for women when I saw urinals in the girls' bathroom in Marshall Hall. This was the only remnant I experienced that F&M was previously an all-male institution. I met a group of young women who bonded almost instantly and became life-long friends. Our group went on to higher education, two attending Harvard and two receiving Ph.D's. One of us received the Williamson Medal and one is now Chairman of the Board at F&M! We are all successful women living fulfilling and meaningful lives. Thanks to F&M, who launched us into our adult lives." - Shary Stamm '73

"My relationships with remarkable Diplomat women began the moment I arrived at F&M in the summer of 1997. When I arrived in Lancaster for field hockey preseason, I met amazing teammates and we started our F&M experience together. We lived together, studied together, played together and really grew up together. Now some are doctors, teachers, lawyers, mothers, business women - all successful in what they do. F&M gave us an opportunity to succeed on and off the field. In addition to bringing us together as a team, the College introduced us to some incredible role models like Patty Epps and Maura Condon Umble. I can still see Maura on the sidelines cheering us on - win or lose. Since graduating from the College, I continue to be impressed by the F&M women I meet - alumnae who went before me and have come after - all exceptional examples of the power of the F&M experience." - Mary Doherty Jones '01

"When I entered F&M in the fall of 1972, the College had only been co-ed for 3 years. It was 70% male, with only about 550 women on campus. The roles of men and women were changing at breakneck speed. We were in totally unchartered waters - and it was exhilarating to be in the middle of it! This sounds prehistoric, but a lot of women used to go to college back then to get their so-called "MRS" degree. All of a sudden, we realized we could get our PHD instead. The wisest among us would eventually figure out how to get both - it didn't have to be "either/ or." I came out of F&M with an outstanding education and lifelong friends. The greatest blessing F&M gave me was that I met my husband there. When we met at age 20, we could have never dreamed that 35 years later, we would be sending our daughter to F&M. Now she's a lawyer like her dad, and when I talk about the early days of feminism, she just yawns. She can't imagine a world where women weren't equal to men. I feel so fortunate to have been at F&M when history was being made - and we were helping to make it. Some folks think of us early alumnae as pioneers. But for me, it was just the best ride of my life." Rosemary Calabrese McDonough '76, P'11

"I am grateful to the women who came before me who paved the way so that by the time I came to F&M in the mid-1980s it didn’t occur to me that I couldn’t do anything that I set my mind to. To me F&M was a place that nurtured dialogue and creativity both inside and outside the classroom. Not a day goes by that I don’t use the critical thinking and communication skills that I strengthened as part of my liberal arts education." - Nicole Teillon Riegl '90 

"I felt particularly empowered at F&M through S.I.S.T.E.R.S. and regret joining only in my senior year. We spoke about society together, not only women's issues, as well as applied those topics to campus. Most importantly however, there was such respect for all the voices being spoken during meetings, and such love for each other in between. The bond is endless."Emily Meneghin '15

"What is most astounding to me about F&M is that each and every student has a lasting place. Meaning, when I was a student there, I had my place and purpose and I, as an individual, was taught to grow and was respected for who I was by faculty, staff, fellow students, etc. The really cool thing is that that hasn't changed. Meaning, as an alum, I feel the same sort of comfort and inclusion and all of the same people (staff, faculty, alums from all years) who supported me back then do now as well. I suppose this isn't a concrete answer -- but the best thing about F&M isn't tangible because it is this sense of inclusiveness that lasts long after graduation. To get a little more tangible -- I am so incredibly delighted that F&M allowed the CFW to come to campus to bring One Love's Escalation Workshop. My very favorite part about working with F&M this last year was connecting with many current students to plan, strategize, and just plain get excited over hosting a very successful and meaningful event on campus. I loved all of my 1-1 conversations with students and loved hearing about their time at F&M. It is so neat that our college has these opportunities!" - Wendy  Meadows '02

"I loved being able to be involved and participate in school. As a member of the Freshman Advisory Council and student government I always felt that the student voice was being heard and acknowledged by the administration." Ricarda Easton '89

"One of the most memorable experiences at F&M was when Dr. Richard Fluck, my Honors Thesis mentor, encouraged me to present my work from his laboratory at the AWIS (Association for Women in Science) meeting in Philadelphia. He assisted me in the application process, showed me how to prepare a poster, and even accompanied me to the meeting. I remember standing in front of my poster at the poster session, feeling intimidated and nervous around all of the other "real scientists." He supported me by standing nearby, but let me do all the talking. That experience had a profound impact on developing my confidence as a female scientist and played a major role in the type of mentor that I am today for my own students. " Sunita Kramer '92

"I loved the times I spent at the Women's Center discussions and in my courses with Alice Drum. These experiences were both cornerstones to my academic and personal growth. They shape my professional passions to this day and continue to help me understand not only who I am as a woman but also help other women and men do the same." Meghan Godorov '06 




Alumnae Throughout the Years 

  • When the first female students arrived on campus in the autumn of 1969, photographers, official and otherwise, attempted to capture the spirit of the new look at F&M.
  • Linda M. Coleman, class of 1979, dances at an event sponsored by the Black Student Union in the Atrium of the Steinman College Center.
  • Cheryl McComsey Kauffman, class of 1982, urging spectators to support the Diplomat football team, fall 1980.
  • Students Christine Souders, Sue Rappaport and Beth Haller dance to Johann Strauss’ Blue Danube Waltz as the opening act for the spring dance concert, April 7 and 8, 1978.
  • Denise Paull was the first female student to win All American honors in cross country, in 1982. Paull accomplished that feat three times. She was also a three time Middle Atlantic Conference champion and two time regional champion.
  • The 1985 Division III National Champions in cross country (from left): Terry Smith, Lois Lucente, Laurie Reynolds, Katrina Harriman (holding the NCAA trophy), Amanda Shaw, Nancy Leet, and Dee Dee Hemingway. Coach Ed Woge stands behind his team. Lucente and Shaw earned All American honors.
  • Ismat Dewji (right), class of 2004, taking advantage of wireless technology, works on her laptop on Hartman Green. Serli Guleryuz, class of 2005 is at the left. 2001 photograph.
  • The 1981 field hockey team, coached by Sue Kloss, finished second in the NCAA Division III tournament. Melinda Reuter, Leanne McFalls (1982 All American), Sandy Swope (1982 All American), and Donna Zaccaria (1982 and 1983 All American) celebrate following McFalls’ goal, the only score in a tough game against Elizabethtown College on October 10, 1981. The women’s lacrosse team also finished second in the 1981 NCAA Division III tournament.